I've recently had the privilege of spending time with other Dominatrices and Dominant women and one thing struck me - their big hearts. The ability to feel and to intuit. To actually listen and think about others. To be open to the world and to be able to choose how they want to be in the world, having all these abilities. That does not mean anyone will witness this heart unconditionally, but if you do and if you prove to be deserving of it - your heart will grow, too. 

My own style of Dominance has been shifting over the years, sometimes with more heart, sometimes with less of it. It is easy to get closed off when we're dealing with mostly men - I'm sure you can imagine what that can be like. I have been in periods where hate seemed to have been the remorseless ruler. But then I'd come back to Myself and My heart. I always do, because those parts are stronger and My love for kink and full life is stronger, too. 

The heart also grows with devoted submissives. To Me, a devoted submissive brings energy, delights and serves My spirit with grace and confidence. It is a relationship that is so honest and truthful, sometimes it is unbelievable that other people can exist without this. 

Thus, take care of your Dominant's heart - it is one of a kind. But of course, and it goes without saying, make sure you do it only the way they like it. 
 
In Summer Bloom,
Eve

It may seem like an obvious or, conversely, ambitious claim, but I'd like to say it out loud and in writing - submitting to a Dominatrix is inherently a religious experience.

All the elements are there. Approaching the Goddess with respect, wishing and hoping. Carving out a special time. Arriving to a special space (a dungeon or another) or a space that will shift from casual to sacred once the Dominatrix arrives. There is a ritual (obvious or not), there is worship, rules and etiquette, there is a beginning and an end, there is mystery and vulnerability, a change. There might even be a transcendence.

Now, for the non-spiritual of you or those with bad religious experience, this may seem a little uncomfortable. But worry not, as it's in your nature and daily life already. According to Mircea Eliade (one of the most influential scholars of religion), the non-religious human has in fact made herself by desacralizing life. Even if one may claim that the origins of humanity where devoid of religion, it certainly has been ingrained deep into us and evident even through the most minor habits.

I'm writing this because I want to give permission to you, the reader, to behave in the manner of the sacred. Even to exaggerate it.

Ultimately, submitting to a Dominatrix is the opportunity to express through actions things that are fundamentally resistant to language.

Ultimately, the Dominatrix is the manifestation of the sacred (hierophany).

Ultimately, you know it already.

Do treat this as a heavenly gate of opportunity. Play with the tools that may bring you ecstasy even before meeting your Dominatrix, such as prayer, meditation and regular thoughts about Her. Be there with intention and see what opens up over time - after all, "access to spiritual life always entails death to the profane condition, followed by a new birth."

In other words, you may became closer to gods yourself.

With Heavenly Embrace,
Eve

As My submissives know, higher protocol D/S dynamics are My lifestyle. That is obvious in My 'professional' sessions as well, because I do not cater to your needs as My focus. I cater to My own pleasure and use you for that as appropriate - within our dynamic and agreements and certainly with deep care. I make it clear at the start, and it is your choice if this kind of approach to D/S is what you're looking for.

However, in the last few years the world really has not been ok. And it doesn't seem to get better. Dehumanizing each other, lack of empathy and brutal violence seem to have become - more and more - the way people relate to one another. I do believe this stems from a vicious cycle of internalised and externalised violence and negligence we have experienced ourselves. From a lack of touch, lack of ability to be with another with full presence and honesty without being rejected. And from a lack of space to explore the vulnerability or so-called 'shadow' parts of you - be it shame, fear, desire, anger or other.

As part of My activism and My desire to go deep, I have decided to offer something a bit different for a limited time - sessions that are dedicated to you and are all about you. I called them Initiation with Eve.

Here will dig deeper into what you desire or perhaps what you lack. We may make a plan of emotions and sensations you'd like to be with or experience via the path of BDSM, sensuality and/or touch. We may just be together in silent presence. Or we may create a ritual for a release, for change, for grief. The space is for you and there is no need to limit yourself to what 'should' be.
 
It's not a new offer per se, as I've certainly have included elements of this in My sessions, but not with such clear intention of you being the focus. And yes, this will require work from you, but I'll be there to guide you. 

Let's initiate you into a joyful change and start something new.

Forever Dreaming Up Better Worlds For All,
Eve

Whenever I hear someone say that for them BDSM does not include sex, I want to ask them - and how do you define 'sex' exactly?

I respect people creating their own unique BDSM relations that may or may not involve 'sex' (whatever that means for them), however I noticed that often in such statements lies a very conservative understanding of what sex is in general - that it is only penetrative/oral sex (anal is definitely on the fence).

If you prefer to keep that definition of sex, that is fine. However, I do feel it can be limiting, especially for those looking to expand their pleasure possibilities. I feel sex is more about the energy that flows between people - the erotic tension, the playful tease, the easy-going care - rather than specific activities. It can look differently for different people. For example, spitting in someone's mouth to Me can be the way we kiss. Holding someone on a leash as I look into their eyes is sex. Kicking in the balls can be incredibly erotically arousing. Biting on the nipples can make one cum. Cleaning done properly may unleash something. The list is really never-ending.

I understand there are reasons not to involve 'sex' in your BDSM play - if you're playing with strangers and you want to make sure it's not creepy or unsafe for them, so you play without any erotic energy. If you are only interested in physical sensation without any wish for arousal or attraction. But even then, you can define that as 'sex'.

Then you may ask, if everything can be sex, what is NOT sex? I'll leave that for you to define for yourself. You are your own unique sexual being, remember that.

For Me, well...

Life is sex.

In The Mood,
Eve

As most of you are are aware, being a dominatrix requires skills*. From hard ones, such as techniques and knowledge of tools and bodies, to soft ones, such communication and psychology. It really is a never-ending learning once you set foot into this world.

The interest in soft skills was what drew Me to Femdom to begin with - how can you play with the mind? How can you seduce and tease? How can you humiliate effectively, in a way that pleases Me? And as I played, the hard skills came as a result. I remember one of the first times I tied someone (long before I was a dominatrix). I didn't know how, but it simply made sense to do it in the scene we were playing. I was making them into a complete fucktoy for Me and they needed not to be able to move in order for that to happen. I did it with a stocking as I didn't have any rope.  Even though it ended up serving more as a mental bondage, it still worked. After that, I decided to learn some rope basics and purchase rope.

With some people and with some skills, I notice it happens the other way round - they start loving a hard skill, such as rope or impact play, and then develop the rest as they realise their game only benefits from the way they can communicate, either with words or touch, or from the way they can tease and understand the other person's needs and desires. So they're inevitably inextricable and it doesn't matter how you come to the knowledge, as long as you are curious and play safe-ish.

This year, I have a desire to deepen My hard skills and here is the list:

• Caning
• Waterboarding (as play)
• Predicament bondage
• Perfecting My whipping
• Possibly breath play...or I'd like to add something creative I haven't considered yet - any suggestions?

*Erotic labourers or sex workers are generally very skilled in various ways, despite the pervasive myths that they are not.

In My Wonderful Nerd Mode,
Eve

Over the holidays I picked up a book about loneliness that I've been meaning to read for some time - The Lonely City by Olivia Laing.

It is a familiar topic to Me, as being alone has both been a precious choice and a burden in the past. Although, when I let Myself think about that, I realize the latter happened mostly when I learnt (or was taught) that being alone meant there's probably something 'wrong' with you. It's when I've experienced feelings of FOMO (fear of missing out) or fears of being judged or shamed. What's more, as the book describes it, such shameful loneliness grows on you. It becomes like a sticky web that is hard to shake off. The more isolated you become, the harder it is to untangle yourself from it. It's as if people smell your loneliness from a distance and you are absolutely exposed if you don't hide. Or maybe you become so comfortable with your own space that others don't seem to fit in there, even if you have a hunger for that connection. Which in turn, leaves you questioning again if there really - truly - is something wrong with you.

But yet again, as with all shadow and difficult aspects of our lives, I am fascinated by solitude, loneliness and isolation. One of My favourite quotes from the book questions it all, too:

'So much of the pain of loneliness is to do with concealment, with feeling compelled to hide vulnerability, to tuck ugliness away, to cover up scars as if they are literally repulsive. But why hide? What's so shameful about wanting, about desire, about having failed to achieve satisfaction, about experiencing unhappiness?'

I see no shame here. I celebrate your wanting. Your craving. Your fantasies. You desire for touch. Your desire to not touch. To be left alone and yet connected. To be in My presence even if it feels like a fleeting moment. Your desire to try and fail. To be unhappy and then also be happy. And then try again and feel all of that rip through your body - again.

How can that be not beautiful?

Read this as your open invitation to come to Me with your loneliness and pulsing wounds. I'll decide if I want to devour them or tend to them but there is no need to hide.

And I also remember that some of My happiest memories are when I'm lost, wandering and alone - in the city, in the forest, in the jungle or on the road, wild as the wind. So first - catch Me if you can and show Me your loneliness is worth Mine.

Kisses,
Eve

2024 has been expansive. I've achieved all the goals I've set (even the big ones), which to Me is a sign of Me moving in the right direction. Before I used to find goal setting pointless or disruptive. However now, as I am even more in My power, My goal list simply serves as a reminder to check in with Myself and to act, if that goal is still creating a desire in Me.

Most importantly, this year I've travelled almost every month of the year and spent time with the people who were curious, generous with their worship, soul and heart, who pushed Me to new experiences and challenges and who served so very well (or not so well despite your best efforts, but I've enjoyed training you). I became very strict in My submissive selection process, which was a game changer for Me. I realised, yet again, I can truly shape the world in My Desire.

And trust Me, it's a wonderful world that I am creating.

I hope that in 2025 I will continue to expand. This may mean being outside of Lithuania even more (those in Lithuania should not waste their time if they wanted to ask Me out on a date and do it sooner than later), learning new hard skills, collaborating more and truly living the vision of Femdom in all parts of My life.

Dare to live your dream in 2025, too.

With Love,
Eve

Before I started doing domination as a BDSM practice (I've always been naturally Dominant), I tried dating like most of you probably do - via dating apps. I only did it for a relatively short time and then would come back to it sporadically. I generally preferred meeting people in parties (naughty ones, too) and public places and was / am quite good at it. But honestly, the dating apps were not worth it and I have no doubt some of you share My sentiment. Although I'm not so aware of the current situation.

Now, I've been almost exclusively dating via My own website - yes, this one. It has become My own unique way of meeting fascinating people, experiencing the best dates I've ever had, enjoying honest and enriching connections and deepening My D / S practice.

A pic of you with your dog and saying that 'gym' or 'food' is your hobby does nothing as a first impression to Me (although both dogs and gyms are great), but I do care about what makes your heart beat faster. I care about what makes you want to write to Me, specifically. I care when I can see that you care, too.

And if I decide to see you, I have an interest in you as a person and a submissive. You've piqued My curiosity with how I can use power dynamics with - specifically - you.

This approach has been working really well for Me in order to have those satisfying dates. But it does not end there. More and more, kinky dates with people who value My time is how I see My romantic life in general. Power dynamics is truly a driving force for Me that I want to continue exploring.

So make an effort when you write that Get In Touch form.

I want to see where this could take us. 

Doing Romance My Own Way,
Eve

 Reality can be un-made.

You want - no, you need - a spark. You need the un-reality that you deserve.

Right now, you are trapped by your own mind. Trapped by your own doing. Restless. Constantly thinking, but it's not exactly clear about what.

Perhaps, you're waiting for the moment. The moment when we connect and look into each other's eyes and the un-reality finally becomes alive.

Suddenly you hear, sense and feel everything so vividly. Your mind is clear even if it's dizzy from desire. It's as if we bend time and we get travel sickness for trespassing our conditioned human limits.

This feels like the way to live.

I measure time by how your body sways. You breathe eternity into your lungs with My blessing.

Is anything between these moments ever enough? Or maybe, a better way to look at it, do the in-between moments exist only for the purpose of rest, recharge and contemplation, so you can feel again? More and deeper. And then some more...

You might think, where is the line? How deep can we go?

You needn't worry. I draw the line for you.

Just give in to My gaze and listen to My voice. We've only started exploring.

With An Other-Worldly Depth,
Eve

There are many ways to love and / or be in relations. One of them is known as FLR - a Female Led Relationship. In BDSM it's a kind of lifestyle Dominant / Submissive dynamic with the Femme being the Dominant. Partners may not call themselves Submissive or Dominant, but the dynamic is there.

Some of you come to Me with desires of FLR, often without even knowing the term. This type of relation is My preference, too, but hearing the term - FLR - oh it rubs all of My sensual self the wrong way.

Maybe I have this reaction because I'm narratophillic and I am very sensitive to language expression that doesn't make sense to Me. Maybe because gender is a social construct (ie. 'Female' led) and this is such a hetero term. But mainly it's the fact that when I was growing up I saw a lot of Female Led Relationships around Me and to Me it means to something completely different, no matter what the kinky community says.

In fact almost all of the relationships I saw around Me when growing up where FLR - it's was the women who did everything, noticed everything, decided everything, told men what to do and what to wear even, came up with ideas for family activities, decided and noticed when something needed to be fixed in the house, looked after the children, cleaned the house, went to school meetings, remembered everyone's birthdays and anniversaries and decided what gifts / clothes / almost everything to buy, decided where and when to go on holiday, what to eat and made the food, put most effort in maintaining the relationship...

You get the picture. I'm sure many of you know this pattern very well.

And don't you agree this is a FLR if we're looking at the term very literally? Just...a very unhealthy one. Possibly non consensual and oppressive for both parties. And certainly not very kinky and sexy for the Femmes.

And thus, from a very young age, I knew this is not a pattern for Me. I have zero interest in men or anyone who want to be led in such a disempowering way. This does not create a deep connection and generosity for each other, it builds walls and resentment instead. It kills the desire for play, tease and growth. And that's utterly useless for anyone who is interested in being more than alive.

So I'm coming up with other terms. One of them is Submissive Served Relationship. Or SSR - with no connection to soviet socialist republics, but certainly with certain socialist values. No gender and no pressure on the Dominant to be the active one. Submissive serves. How and when they serve is an agreement, but the key is that they do it and strive to do it. The focus is on that.

After all, your servitude is what I'm here to enjoy :)

Curious to hear your thoughts on this in the comments.

Always in love with being served the way I want,
Eve