'Is this real?'

Recently during a session, in quite a heated moment, my client whispered: 'Is this real'?
I looked at him, and re-reassuringly responded 'yes'.  It certainly was for me.

After the session, I asked him to elaborate on what he meant exactly. He said he felt so far away from his daily life and routine and was in such a different state, that suddenly it all felt surreal. So he wanted to be sure.

I am glad I can co-create such states with and for people. Many of us think that pleasure is a luxury - for one reason or another - but pleasure is all around us. It is within us and our bodies are wired for pleasure. It can feed us and heal us, even in the most difficult times.

But I'm not talking about difficult times really - people who come to see me are mostly privileged and at least have some external  safety. However, pleasure, and especially sexual pleasure, is so far away from many people's daily lives, despite them wanting more of it and theoretically having all the access to it - sex toys, dating apps etc. We ne to re-learn how to enjoy, play and feel pleasure. How to reduce shame. Because, to be honest, these states my client was in are also the states that can sometimes feel the most real thing in one's life. And it's so worth it.

Kisses,
Eve