The Skills

As most of you are are aware, being a dominatrix requires skills*. From hard ones, such as techniques and knowledge of tools and bodies, to soft ones, such communication and psychology. It really is a never-ending learning once you set foot into this world.

The interest in soft skills was what drew Me to Femdom to begin with - how can you play with the mind? How can you seduce and tease? How can you humiliate effectively, in a way that pleases Me? And as I played, the hard skills came as a result. I remember one of the first times I tied someone (long before I was a dominatrix). I didn't know how, but it simply made sense to do it in the scene we were playing. I was making them into a complete fucktoy for Me and they needed not to be able to move in order for that to happen. I did it with a stocking as I didn't have any rope.  Even though it ended up serving more as a mental bondage, it still worked. After that, I decided to learn some rope basics and purchase rope.

With some people and with some skills, I notice it happens the other way round - they start loving a hard skill, such as rope or impact play, and then develop the rest as they realise their game only benefits from the way they can communicate, either with words or touch, or from the way they can tease and understand the other person's needs and desires. So they're inevitably inextricable and it doesn't matter how you come to the knowledge, as long as you are curious and play safe-ish.

This year, I have a desire to deepen My hard skills and here is the list:

• Caning
• Waterboarding (as play)
• Predicament bondage
• Perfecting My whipping
• Possibly breath play...or I'd like to add something creative I haven't considered yet - any suggestions?

*Erotic labourers or sex workers are generally very skilled in various ways, despite the pervasive myths that they are not.

In My Wonderful Nerd Mode,
Eve