Lifestyle or Professional?

You might have heard the terms 'lifestyle' or 'professional' Dominants, meaning that the former engages in BDSM out of personal interest and the latter for mostly financial reasons. Of course, a lot of people are a mix of two. I want to stress, that no option is wrong or less worthy than the other, in My opinion. You can have wonderful time with a Dominatrix who does it purely as a profession and would never engage in BDSM at home, and you can have a horrible time with a Dominant who does it because they identify as a Dominant person and 'lives' it. And some of you will spend a lot more money on a 'lifestyle' Dominant than the 'professional' one. It all really depends on the people involved.  

The reason I am writing about this is because I want to clarify where I am on this multi-pronged scale for both My current and future submissives. It feels important to do so, because it will give you yet another insight into My mind and thinking, which in turn will lead Me to deeper connections with you. 

I am a Dominant person. I have always been - in subtle ways in the past, and certainly less subtle these days. In general life for Me, this shows up as 'I know what I want', mostly. And 'I will get it', eventually. I tend to guide and take action, mostly with empathy, sometimes with impatience and annoyance. This doesn't mean I dominate the conversation or My friends do only what I tell them to, or that I even want them to (ok, sometimes). Remember consent and complexity of human nature?

In kink, this shows up as...Well, My partners have all been submissive, except for the beginning of My journey (they were switches). It brings Me a lot of joy to play with someone's vulnerabilities, with their fears and desires and to have their trust. I learn that way about Myself, too. It's not even about gender, although it's certainly deeply satisfying to see men being well trained and eager submissives. But mostly - I am interested in you (mostly - on your knees), how you make Me feel and what I want to do with that.

And yet, there is also something deeply satisfying to engage in Domination in a professional setting, whether on My own or in a dungeon. Meeting new people, some of whom I will never see again. Having My own website, which I probably wouldn't do if I was only in 'lifestyle' kink. Charging tributes. Continuously being pushed to learn more and to be a part of the amazing network of those who do it 'professionally'. 

I do see less and less new people however, and I have much less patience for those who drag My energy and quicker ability to discern if this is a relation I want to pursue, no matter how big/little of a monetary tribute you can make towards My life. So does this make Me a 'lifestyler' or a 'professional'?

A 'professional lifestyler', perhaps. Or a 'lifestyle professional'?

Or simply someone with a deep interest in how to make this work for Myself even better. 

Joyfully Curious,
Eve